How To Begin Again After Disappointment
We’ve all been through that big disappointment or break up at some point in our lives. They’re hard to recover from… typically because you might feel like giving up or because one or both of you have decided to just move on.
However, it’s important to remember that if you have been lucky enough to have experienced a great love with someone, don’t give up too quickly.
There’s always a way to create an opportunity to start over and for both of you to work together on writing a new story for the next chapter in your lives.
Without a doubt, it’s devastating to go through a major shake up, but your relationship might have needed that massive earthquake to shake up the old patterns, level some of the old beliefs and create new margins. You may want to continue to move apart for a season to allow this shaking to completely subside.
Once the dust has settled (if the building is still standing, that is!) there’s a wonderful opportunity to rebuild and create a new chapter in your relationship.
- Create new agreements so that even if the fault lines underneath shake the foundation, it doesn’t have to lead to a total disaster for the relationship again.
- Develop new communication habits and rituals. Learn to see things through your partner’s eyes and honor them even if you don’t agree.
- Keep working on yourself. Learn from past mistakes and consider how you can handle problems differently in the future.
- When disappointment comes up, speak your truth gently and firmly but affirm your love and commitment.
If your love is real and one that is truly meant to be, hang in there and fight for it. Keep believing in each other and your relationship can find that new chapter. It’s never too late to try once again.
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