If I Can Rise from the Ashes, So Can You
Many folks give up on love and romance because they’ve been hurt, and they do nothing but focus on the past and their sadness and pain.
I can relate to that.
Six years ago, there was a brief time when I went to bed at night wishing I didn’t wake up. Every day was a nightmare of wanting to die and hoping the day would end, and then praying my life would end with it.
That’s right; I was so depressed I didn’t want to live. I found no joy in any part of my life. I was miserable and consumed with unhappiness, and I spent my days curled up in a ball on the couch with the curtains drawn. I was dead in every way, but I still existed.
How did this happen?
I was an insurance broker for over 20 years, but I lost my money in the market. I lived on the beach and told people I was working from home… but in reality, I had no job, was divorced, and nobody loved me… I was ready to give up, and dying was the best solution I could come up with.
Yet something inside pushed me to break my internal bondage. This was when I began investing in personal growth and began following my passion to give back, instead of being a taker.
My internet dating addiction (having gone on over 300 dates) was actually my salvation. I was compelled to write about my experiences, and then women began seeking my advice about men. This is when I started doing extensive research on relationships and mating rituals.
It seemed I had a knack for pegging guys and their behavior, and people wanted to pay me to do it. I was able to leave a profession I hated and follow my passion helping others create positive change in their lives. My fascination with relationships (why some work and so many don’t) became my new addiction. When I connect the dots looking back, my addictions changed my life.
When I started a blog on Facebook, men and women followed it. I created an ebook, and then I put up a website and a sales page. People were buying the book, and I was asked to give talks and speak. I couldn’t believe what was happening.
Life started to change, and now I jump out of bed in the morning. The truth is, I’m nobody special, and I’m no different from anyone else. All I did was the following: learn from my mistakes, seek out those wiser than me for guidance, and not give up… my motto was “Keep moving forward.”
My pain and disappointments led me to where I am now: happy and fulfilled, with some amazing clients and lots of women to date. If I can do it… anybody can. The Phoenix rose from the ashes.
Become a Phoenix. I can show you how.
Nice article, Jonathon.