“Why is it so hard?” These words are on the lips of those who long for a committed relationship and yet they are feeling frustration on the other end. Often there’s a little voice inside that is sabotaging all the joy one truly wants to experience when being in relationship because the dating process is a little bit of work.
Therein lies the rub… does the work have to be hard or can we have fun? This morning I was given a gift to remind me that dating doesn’t have to be negative. Remember that every experience is all part of the journey to self growth and enlightenment, if one chooses to see it that way, that is.
If you’re single and looking for love but are feeling constantly frustrated, I invite you to stand up and say, “You know what? Screw it. I’m going to learn to have a great time and start enjoying the process.”
Here are a few simple ways that you can keep dating fun:
- Embrace spontaneity. Don’t wait for the guy to initiate everything. Take some of the pressure off him by planning a surprise outing.
- Focus on the present (see my older post about Destination Addiction.) Don’t be so consumed with thoughts of whether its going to work out for the long term that you forget to enjoy the moment for what it is.
- Break the tired old dating routine of a coffee date, dinner or the movies. Go on a hike, a bike ride, volunteer together, or have a picnic in the park (bring a Frisbee!)
- Consider dating (slightly) out of your age group – older or younger. You may find that your differing perspectives can spark some chemistry between you. And if it doesn’t work out..so what? You had a good time.
Sure, dating takes some work. And remember if you aren’t willing to put up with the ups and downs of dating with a good attitude, it’s going to be that much harder if you find someone you want to pursue a long term relationship.
Now, go have some fun. It’s OK! You may have to set an intention to do just that but it will definitely be worth it.
He says one thing but does another. Does trying to understand the male mind make you a bit crazy? Believe it or not men really do want to be in healthy relationships. In Unlocking the Male Mind I’ll share my own insights about men and what they’re really thinking!
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