You’re in Control of Your Destiny
Does any of this sound familiar?
- Married (check)
- Divorced (check)
- Serial dater (check)
- Several short lived relationships (check)
- A significant relationship (check)
- A big break up (check)
- Back out there dating (check)
As you can see, I’ve checked the box of what many people have gone through or who are currently going through on their journey to finding a long term mate. It can start to feel like an escalator you can’t escape from and is taking you nowhere.
As a relationship coach, I’ve had the opportunity to talk with and interview many people who have reached this point. They are burnt out, bitter, jaded or feel entitled which usually leads to one predictable outcome – remaining single.
No matter how your journey to love and commitment evolves, there’s really only one way to magnetically attract what you seek. You must remember that your thoughts will lead to your results. If your thoughts are negative, you’ll continue to attract negative people.
What might happen if you come from a place of gratitude, compassion and optimism? For some of you, this will mean developing some new thought patterns and we know that change doesn’t come easy the older we get.
Your thoughts: What do you find yourself dwelling on? The constant availability of bad news and online drama can put us in a negative state of mind. Focus on the positive and it will affect your thought patterns. Push negativity away. What you’re thinking will become what you’re saying.
Your words: What we allow into our minds will become our words. Your tongue (or keyboard) is powerful and can be used for good or bad. Use your words to speak life into those around you. How you speak and interact with others over a period of time establishes your character and behavior.
Your habits: It’s said that it takes up to 30 days to establish a new habit. How you act on a daily basis (whether good or bad) will become your habits. Your behavior and habits will become your character. Character will ultimately determine your destiny.
If you’ve become burnt out or bitter along the journey to finding someone to share your life with, take some time out to examine your thought patterns and habits. It may be a good idea to take a temporary fast from relationships so that you can focus on yourself, establish some new thought patterns and possibly experience a personal or spiritual renewal.
And whether or not you meet that special person, by developing positive thoughts, words, behaviors and habits you will have much to give (and receive from) friends, family and the world, helping you to live a life of joy and purpose.
Is it really possible to find love online? In Finding Love Online: 7 Mistakes You’re Making When Seeking True Love and How To Do It Right I’ll show you how to create a standout profile, avoid scammers and much more!
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