How to Attract Positive People Into Your Life
Most people who come to me for coaching tend to have one thing in common… they focus more on what they don’t want, instead of what they do want. “I don’t want a cheater, a liar, a player, a lazy man or a man out of shape.” Can you guess what one attracts when they focus on what they don’t want? Right…just the person you don’t want! When you change the language and desire to be more positive, more of what you seek will be attracted to you.
When communicating digitally, whether it’s setting up a profile at an online dating site or chatting via text or email, the last thing you want to do is come across as too demanding with a long list of qualifications in a partner that you want checked off before you’ll even consider them as a potential date.
Think about how you might come across to someone. What positive traits do you bring to a potential relationship? You probably want to be perceived as fun, interesting, and creative. Focus on positive outward energy and what you have to give in a relationship. You’ll be more likely to be considered as an attractive candidate by other positive people when they view your profile or as you initially communicate with a potential date.
Of course you will want to screen potential losers — that’s just common sense. Know what your boundaries are and stay true to them. You just don’t need to air all your dislikes before you’ve really had a chance to talk to someone.
If you find yourself dwelling on the negative frequently, it may be time to make a conscious decision to be more positive.
- Look for the good around you in your daily life.
- Take a few minute to really notice the positive things in your life, and give thanks for them.
It will take some time to establish this new pattern, especially if you’ve struggled with a negative mindset most of your life. However, if you’re faithful to keep spending some time working on changing your thought patterns every day, you can change from being chronically negative to a more positive person.
When you keep your focus fun and positive, that’s who you’re going to attract. Positive people attract other positive people.
Have you wondered why men seem to pull away just as you thought you were getting to know them, just when things were starting to get good? Why Men Pull Away will help you get past this roadblock and hopefully never have to experience this heartbreak again in the future.
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