Feel Good about Yourself and the Guys Will Come Running
What is the sexiest thing about women?
Nope, not big breasts or a Kim Kardashian-type rear end.
Nope, not hair down to the waist or full red lips. (Sure, we think those things are sexy, but what trumps them?)
A woman who loves herself, is comfortable in her own skin, and has confidence.
Yep, it’s true.
When you’re happy with yourself, men are happy with you. You have a glow, and they can see and feel it. There is an aura that surrounds you, and it calls out to men.
So how do you get this glow? You find ways to love, respect, and honor yourself.
Not much is sexier to a man than a woman who knows who she is and honors herself, even if she has to say no to him occasionally. Here’s how you can find that inner goddess and make the men flock to you.
Forgive yourself for the past, and let it go.
So many times, we (I’m including guys here) beat ourselves up for old mistakes and past hurts. Stop it. Forgive yourself, and forgive your exes. Mistakes were made, but they led you to where you are today and where you will be tomorrow, which is a great place.
Don’t forget what’s happened in your past, but leave it there… it’s history.
Find opportunities to have fun.
Decide and discover what you really love and enjoy, and then do them as often as you can. Men love a woman who has a life outside the relationship, so don’t stop when you get a boyfriend. Keep doing you, and if it’s not fun, it isn’t worth doing… right?
Take care of yourself, and pamper that gorgeous creature that is you.
If you’ve been thinking about trying a new haircut or a different clothing style, go for it! Buy that perfume that you love, and have a spa day when you want one. When you feel beautiful, it shows, and it’s like a homing beacon for men.
Know your worth.
So many times, I hear women say things like, “He’s the only man in this world for me” as these men treat them badly. No, he’s not, and you are worth far more than that. Own it! When you do, the quality of men you attract will instantly improve. And you will be amazed at how you’re treated—like the queen you are.
Don’t settle. When I say that, I mean don’t settle for a man who treats you badly, makes fun of you, doesn’t value you, and doesn’t make you feel like a desirable woman he treasures.
I am not saying to hold out for a man who makes six figures, lives in a mansion, and has three degrees. Often those men make the worst mates. Don’t be hung up on the little, superficial things about men. Choose a man of good character who cares about you and treats you as you deserve to be treated.
Great article Jonathon. This is something I struggle with in my Matchmaking business. Not all, but some women are looking to be rescued. Helping women feel more confident about themselves, feel and think positive and to put the competition aside, is something I love to help women discover.