Why You Need To Cancel Your Online Dating Profile NOW!
Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” to any of these below?
Online dating sucks.
There are no good men out there. I can’t believe I am going this. All the profiles are lame. Can’t these guys spell. I keep getting emails from losers. I’m tired of these winks. His pic’s must be from the 80’s. He’s 45 yrs old seeking a woman in her 20’s. All these men just wanna get laid.
The list can go on and on and on.
If you answered YES to any of the above
Cancel your online dating profile NOW.
Yes, if any of these things really bug you, cancel your profile now.
Even though connecting online is the fastest growing way for people to meet. Even though now more marriages and relationships started with those who have met online.
Even though it’s easy and you can connect 24/7 without leaving your house. Even though you can meet someone who you might never have the opportunity to cross paths with in real life.
Cancel now because online dating SUCKS!
There’s always the coffee shop, grocery store, meet-up groups etc…
But Jonathon, I am really fed up with online dating.
Look I get it, it can be frustrating.
One date after another with no luck. He didn’t look like his pic’s. He was sooooo boring. I can’t believe he asked me to pick up half the check. There was no chemistry.
This list can on and on.
Jonathon, is there a better way?
Before we go into some alternatives, let’s check in with our mindset.
If our mindset is negative about online dating, what will happen?
No really, what will happen?
Can you truly meet an amazing guy if your mindset is say “piss poor”?
Of course not.
Let’s flip it for a moment.
How about I share something personal. Before I met my beloved, I was an active online dater. I loved meeting new people. I loved making new friends. I loved first dates. I viewed this as an adventure. I viewed all the possibilities. I envisioned what a fantastic relationship would feel like.
Look, I’m one of those guys who believes we attract what we put out. So for me, a positive mindset was critical. Being in the right frame of mind was essential.
In fact, I took it one step further.
I created a love mantra.
What’s a love mantra Jonathon?
Glad you asked.
A mantra, as you probably know, is a written declaration–a way of petitioning for something that you want to attract into your life. On my personal journey to ATTRACT My Ideal Relationship, I learned the missing piece was creating what I call a Love Mantra. So when I combined my positive mindset with reciting my love mantra (several times a day), my first date with my beloved happened in 83 days.
Can you believe it, 83 days. Actually, we met 38 days from when I wrote the mantra. For 6 years after my divorce I was searching for her and 38 days from practicing what I now preach, we had our first email exchange.
Wanna guess where I met her?
Do you have a clue how we connected?
I’ll let you in on a little secret. It wasn’t a coffee shop. It wasn’t at a meet-up group. It wasn’t at the grocery story. It wasn’t at a bar. It wasn’t jogging on the beach (probably cuz I hate jogging). It wasn’t even a fix up.
Are you dying to find out?
The answer is….
An online connection was how we first met.
But it wasn’t until weeks later when I saw her profile on a dating site did I get the nerve to ask her out. She was out there online dating just like me. On Facebook I didn’t know her relationship status. But on Match.com I knew she was dating. That’s the beauty of online dating, you know they’re single. Not like the coffee shop, grocery store, meet up groups etc…
Online dating is for singles.
But Jonathon, there are guys in relationship or even married online.
Yes there is a small percentage of those, but so what! There are an abundance of great guys online searching, trust me. Look, I was online dating and so was my girlfriend. If you cancel your profile, you might miss out on meeting a fantastic man. Now friends, I not saying online dating is the end all, be all. I’m not saying you can’t meet people out in public or by chance. What I am saying is have a good mental outlook about love & dating. Create written mantra of what you want. Take action to make yourself available.
As a dating & relationship coach, this is my formula for success.
Just like the client who called me this week to inform me she eloped.
Jen said: Thank you Jonathon for kicking me in the butt about my negative attitude towards online dating You said “cancel my profile” if I am going to be so down with meeting men online. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to you, but what I did do as you repeatedly suggested, change my mindset, I created an awesome love mantra with your help and I dated online. Thanks to you Jonathon I met my guy on Match.com using your love manta techniques, you’re the best.
Thank you Jen.
Friends, if you hate online dating then by all means cancel your profile.
But here’s the bottom line: Have a positive mental attitude about dating. Create & recite a love mantra everyday. Take action, whether it’s online dating or something else…but take action to make yourself be seen by eligible men who can ask you out on dates.