3 Things Men Notice About You Besides Your Looks
It’s a legitimate question to ask in light of one British woman making headlines recently after gifting roughly $20,000 in vouchers for plastic surgery last year to–get this–her 7-year-old daughter. The 51-year-old mom has reportedly spent nearly $1 million on herself in her efforts to look like more like Barbie. The doll? Yes, the Mattel doll. This woman’s role model is a plastic, manufactured doll.
This story got me really thinking about how women sometimes have such a negative self-image because of the way beauty is portrayed in the media. There’s so much focus on looking good to attract the right man into you life, but what happens when your looks start to fade, your hair starts to gray, and your boobs start to sag?
No matter how much Botox you inject into your lips to make them look like Angelina Jolie’s or how many boob jobs you get to make your breasts as perky as Sofia Vergara, your looks will only take you so far in a relationship. If you don’t have anything else going on for you besides your looks, then you are going to have some huge problems in the relationship department.
As visual as men are when it comes to attraction, we notice a lot more about you than the way you do your hair or your nails. If you really want a relationship ready man to notice you when you walk into a room, there are at least three qualities we look for in a woman that will really get our attention and pique our interest in you.
1. Confidence. A confident woman is a beautiful woman. The way a woman carries herself, the way she speaks, the way she interacts with others–those are the things that a relationship ready man really notices about you. It’s kind of hard for us not to notice a woman who exudes confidence.
2. Sense of Humor. Pretty faces are easy to come by, but what’s really refreshing for a man is meeting a woman with a great sense of humor. While recent studies have shown that women are typically attracted to men with broody good looks (think James Dean), researchers have actually found the opposite to be true for men who are typically are drawn to happy, smiling women. So by all means, laugh out loud when we’re around.
3. Intelligence. There’s no bigger let down for a man than a beautiful with a pea-sized brain. As visually stimulating as a woman might be, the attraction falls short when there’s no mental stimulation… or any other stimulation for that matter. A woman who is just as smart as she is sexy is a huge turn on for a man because it lets us know you have a lot going for you than just your looks.
Confidence, intelligence and a sense of humor are three qualities that speak volumes of a woman’s personality. While you may be busy obsessing over how good you look to us, we’re busy “obsessing” about what’s underneath the facade–more like observing–to see if you are the kind of a woman we just want to sleep with or the kind of woman we want to marry and settle down with.
So the next time you decide to give yourself a makeover to better attract the man of your dreams, here’s a tip: try working on your inner beauty for a change. Skip the beauty spa and read a book or learn a new skill that will make you uniquely attractive. True beauty happens from the inside out, so do yourself and the relationship ready man of your dreams a favor and make it your daily resolution to better yourself on the inside to enhance your overall beauty.