Making the Most of Midlife Dating
Before I became a Midlife Dating Coach, I use to love the dating process because I used to say “yes” to almost everybody, even when it went against my intuition. Truthfully, I was just looking for a good time.
Now that I’m single again, I can identify with the frustrations my clients feel because now I’m also at a point where I don’t want to waste my time. It may just be that I’m more set in my ways as I get older. I’ve come to understand at this stage of my life I’m looking for a relationship that’s real and substantial. By learning to listen to my intuition, I’m telling myself that I’m ready, serious and deserving of the best romantic relationship for myself and the woman I hope to meet in the future.
As we age, we increasingly understand the brevity of life and it’s natural to want to make the most of the time that we have left. We’ve all paid our dues on the journey of life, hopefully without bitterness so we can look forward to the future with hope.
Thus, it’s perfectly okay to be choosey. We learn to be true to ourselves. We know ourselves and can quickly read others. We can use this transitional time to try new things, make new friends and learn to enjoy some time alone.
You don’t have to date out of desperation and certainly don’t have to settle for just anyone to avoid the pain of being alone. It can be frustrating but will be absolutely worth the wait.
Spend some time thinking about past experiences and the traits that are important to you in a partner. Consider any patterns of negativity that you’ve experienced with past partners and how you might avoid repeating those mistakes in the future.
What’s interesting this time around is that I’ve learned to say no to the “you just never know” prospects because one of the gifts of maturity and life experience is that I’ve learned to really know myself and listen to my inner voice. This is why the process isn’t frustrating or fearful for me because I know a meaningful relationship WILL happen… at just the right time.
Finding love in the mid life years can be challenging but it certainly doesn’t have to be hopeless.
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