Let Go of Who You’re Supposed to Be to Discover Who You Are
Growing up, I was imprinted with the following by society and my family: go to school, get a job, get married, buy a house, and have kids. That’s all you’ll need to be happy.
Does it sound familiar? I never thought to question it because everyone else I knew was getting the same programming. Then reality hit, and that picket fence fantasy turned into a disaster because I lost my job, got divorced, and sold my house.
When my blueprint collided with my reality, I was lost, scared, and depressed. For the first time, I had to stare in the mirror and ask myself, “Who am I?” This is when my sense of the world began to change, and I realized that happiness wasn’t the accumulation of stuff. In fact, this is when I decided that happiness for me was just experiencing the PRESENT.
I realized that the story we’re all sold growing up may have been the thing to do in years past, but it doesn’t cut it for everyone. Maybe it never did, and people were just too afraid to buck the system. They were too scared to explore what they really wanted and who they really were. Maybe they were terrified at what they might discover—that the life they were living (apparently happily) was actually a lie. How scary would that be?
I was apprehensive and frightened at the thought of exploring me. But I pushed forward. I knew I had to break free of the blueprint that didn’t work for me, because it was a cookie cutter, planned life.
I knew there was joy on the other side, but I had to go inward and experience life my way… one day at a time, living each to the fullest and not dwelling on the past or ruminating about the future.
All it took to start was losing my expectations and putting my past where it belongs… in the attic of my life. I have learned lessons from where I’ve been, and I know I’ll learn from everywhere I go. But I focus on now, on the present. That’s all we have anyway.
If I can give you one piece of advice, it’s to let go of old hurts, pain, and suffering and live each day as it comes. Don’t let anyone else define you, and release those old blueprints you had no choice in. Create a new life by you, for you, and about you.
Now the inner journey rocks my world so much and it allows me to manifest an amazing outer journey, which is why new love has entered my life. The more I let go of who I’m supposed to be, I’m becoming more of who I am.
You can do the same, easily. Start today by doing one new thing you’ve always wanted to do but perhaps were told you couldn’t or shouldn’t.
It will snowball from there, and you may be pleasantly surprised at what it brings you…