How to make him miss you: 3 surefire tips!
If you’ve sought out this article, it means that you’ve got your sights set on someone. How exciting! Something is budding, or perhaps you’re already in a relationship with this man and you want to know how to make him miss you. Perhaps you two were spending too much time together and now he’s pulling away or maybe you find that in the beginning, he seemed to be way more invested.
He was going out of his way to talk to you, he was proposing dates, he was making an effort, and now he seems like he’s a little bit less interested. Is there anything you can do?
If you want to know how to make a man miss you and become more involved in this relationship again, you’ve come to the right place. I am going to give you three tips that will help you to make him miss you and start to gravitate back towards you. Let’s get started!
How to make him miss you and commit: The key
I know that when you start seeing someone, you want to be sure that you’re on their mind. You want to ensure that this guy is thinking about you, craving your presence, and missing you. Otherwise, how are things going to develop? We need to make sure that he’s committed to this relationship with you and in order to do so, we need to understand male psychology.
I have been a love and relationship coach since 2007, and in my one on one coaching sessions alone, I have worked with over 30,000 women. As a result, I can confidently tell you what works and what doesn’t when it comes to making a guy miss you! There are recurring themes that I see in my coaching sessions, so we just need to think about how the male mind operates.
I am sure that you’ve heard about how men love a challenge, and they have the “hunter” mentality, right? Well, this just means that we love to put you on a pedestal. We love to value what we don’t have and feel like we really need to fight for something. On the flip side, this also means that we, and all human beings, have a nasty habit of taking things for granted when we feel like they already belong to us. Keep this in mind as we dive into the tips I have for you…
How to make him miss you starting today
Perhaps the biggest thing to keep in mind when you want to know how to make him miss you is how important it is to avoid handing everything to him on a silver platter. In order for a guy to truly miss you and want to spend time with you, he needs to feel like he has to work for something.
I know how counterintuitive this might sound, especially because we live in a society where Hollywood and Disney movies have taught us that we have to give more love if we want to receive more love. But ladies, if you’re bending over backward to make this guy happy and show him how attached you are to him, he’s not going to miss you; it’s going to become dangerously easy for him to take you for granted. This is the last thing we want!
Instead, we need to make him see you in a new light again and feel inspired to make an effort to get your attention. But how?
Well, I’m glad you asked 😉
How to make him miss you psychology: The power of distance
The very first tip I have for you is all about distance and how effective it can be when you want to make him miss you!
I am not saying that you need to be cold or hostile towards this guy. I’m saying that you need to make sure that you’re a little bit distant and switch your focus to your personal life. It’s all too easy to fixate on a guy when you miss him and want him to miss you, too, but taking that energy and pouring it into your own life is a very effective solution. Take this time to actively work on making your life better than before. Get physically active, fill up your schedule with people and activities that bring you joy, step out of your comfort zone, try new things that you’ve always wanted to do, get back in touch with friends or family members that you haven’t spoken to in a while…
This guy should text you first. We want him to show up for you. Just keep enriching your own life an the happier you become, the more you will see that he’ll start missing you. Use social media to post pictures of all the fun and interesting things you’ve been doing and you’ll spark his interest.
Think about it this way. If this guy was reaching out to you 24/7, you wouldn’t necessarily miss him, would you? I doubt it. In fact, you might even inadvertently take him for granted if he does it for too long. It’s a very common phenomenon so make sure that you give him the opportunity to miss you.
Make a man miss you: Excitement
I honestly cannot stress the importance of this enough. Men want excitement. Women want excitement. Everyone wants excitement! When it comes to relationships, excitement is crucial because we all want to experience something unique, something special, so I want you to make sure that the time you spend with this guy is special. Don’t just hang out on the couch watching Netflix again.
To make him miss you, we need to make him associate you with fun, excitement, and positive emotions. Create special moments because when we experience something that feels special, something that we enjoy, we will want to do it again, right? Then, if you can incorporate a little bit of distance afterwards, he will miss you very much!
The other thing to keep in mind is that the more a guy misses you, the more he’s going to commit to the relationship.
As I said, we want him to associate you with something that he wants more of, so make each moment you spend with him interesting. Think about things you’ve never done before. You can take a pen and a paper and start to jot down what kinds of experiences you want to share with this man. If you can offer him something new, he will also have to step up and meet you halfway. He will feel that exciting challenge I was talking about, and you’re going to have an easier time creating something solid!
Ways to make him miss you: Less sex!
Oh I know, no one wants to read this. But it’s true, if you want to make a guy miss you, you need to have less sex with him. There is nothing wrong with sex, but don’t let it happen every single time you see each other. Think about it this way. Imagine that you’re starving and someone gives you something to eat. It’ll feel great and you’ll be satisfied, and when you finish the meal you won’t necessarily want more food. The same thing is true for sex…
If you give him love, attention, affection, and sex all the time, he’s just going to take it for granted. He won’t need you or crave you, and he won’t miss you.
Just combine the three tips I went over with you in this article and you’ll see that he’ll start missing you and he’ll want to start spending more time with you.
You’ve got this, ladies. Just make sure that every moment you spend together is fun and exciting, combine that with a little bit of distance, and make sure that sex is something special between you.
I wish you all the very best.
Ciao ciao les amies,
Written by: Alex Cormont