How Important is Honesty in a Relationship?
Most people will tell you that honesty in a relationship is a character quality that’s very important to them. It’s a natural sentiment, because who wants to be with someone who can’t be counted on to be honest?
But here’s something to think about…in the early stage of relationships, honesty can be a moving target when it comes to feelings. No matter how honest a person thinks they are with their feelings, those feelings can change, move about and even morph at any time.
In other words, feelings aren’t facts. One minute a person is into you, the next minute they’re too busy to see you. Or one minute they might be professing their love and the next minute they’re ready to head for the hills. Or one minute you might be the “just friends” zone and in the next you find you’re madly in love.
Honest feelings can change over time
People do try to be honest with their feelings in the moment. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that feelings can change at any time (or over time). When the discussion turns to future long term relationship possibilities, lots of women consider that expressed feeling a promise for a long term relationship, or a guarantee that things will always stay the same between them.
Many relationship heartaches stem from getting too attached to a possible future outcome, resulting in feelings of betrayal when the outcome is something other than what was expected or projected. At its worst, some will blame the other and label them as dishonest, liars, players, or narcissists when things don’t work out in their favor.
This is a natural and very human experience. The most genuine and honest of expressed sentiments and feelings are not a guarantee of a stable, long-term relationship.
Every day’s a new beginning
Each morning a relationship begins anew and each morning, it’s an invitation to choose love once again. If that person chooses a new direction for your relationship, bless them on their journey and continue on the path that you were destined to follow.
Live each day as if it was your last. Rejoice in past relationships as life lessons and ongoing steps on your journey and keep moving forward.
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