A Change of Perspective on LDRs
For those of you who’ve followed me for a while, you know I’ve pooh-poohed relationships that communicate more by text than over the phone or in person. I always considered them “bubble” relationships and never took them seriously. I also encouraged my clients to never put too much stock in them.
But the Universe always has the last word. It really wants to teach me to embrace this way of life, so it sent me a special lady who lives a thousand miles away. As usual in an LDR, much of our communication to this point has been via text.
WOW! What a smack to my old thinking, because I’m finding this an exciting way to stay connected. Now let’s face it, this is all new (so I’m in that high), and it’s hard to say what’s going to happen, so I’ve changed my tune. Enjoy every way to connect… even if it’s text.
Yes, my lady and I have met in person, and yes, I still say that at some point you have to meet so you’re not stuck behind technology forever. But I’m finally getting what my clients mean when they say LDRs can be exciting and amazing relationships.
One the principles I coach is being passionate and detached… which basically means being open to the adventure (without walls) and detached to the outcome of what will come next. The bottom line of PD is about being present and enjoying the journey.
Now most of you know I wasn’t a fan of LDRs, and yet what better way to be present and enjoy the journey… because you’re really only “in” until the next visit.
What I’m learning and experiencing now is how to be absolutely grateful for each moment while appreciating the ride. (Plus all the cute text messages throughout the day.)
As the old saying goes, if you want something bad enough, you’re going to do what it takes to make it happen. When you enjoy the journey, stay true to who you are, and be your best… the LDR will last the perfect time. A day, a week, a year, or a lifetime… when we let go of exceptions, we truly LIVE!