How to Find Contentment Within Yourself

Have you observed people who are genuinely happy and content with themselves, whether they have a partner or not? They’re easy to spot because they are confident in their ability to be an “I.” They live their lives on their own terms with purpose and contentment. Since they have a good sense of their self worth, they’ve learned that they don’t need to give their individual power away to the “we” just for the sake of being in a relationship.

When a person is disconnected from themselves and doesn’t have a sense of self worth, they can easily give their power to another in the mistaken belief that happiness comes from an outside source or relationship. The worst “break up” a person can experience, is the break up from their own self worth.

People like this can easily become devastated when a relationship ends. These folks usually suffer extreme pain when a relationship ends for any reason. They don’t know what to do with themselves. Unless they develop new habits, they can repeat this pattern again and again unless they reconnect with their self worth and may find themselves in destructive relationships.

Do you find yourself forming attachments too quickly in hopes of escaping your “I” and only finding personal validation unless you’re in a relationship? Contentment and self worth can only come from within.

Here are five steps to get you on the path to finding and reclaiming your confidence and self worth.

  1. Physical activity – Find a form of exercise that you enjoy. Aim for consistent improvement. You’ll find that feeling fit contributes to your sense of self worth and confidence. Plus, you’ll meet like minded people who share your interest.
  2. Advocate for yourself – Learn to speak up for yourself. It’s okay to say no and it’s okay to let others know how you feel.
  3. Read great books – In our time of tweets and frequent status updates, reading great literature has become a a thing of the past. Make a list of books that you want to read and a timetable to read them that works for you. You’ll feel a sense of accomplishment and just might find that literature has a unique way of filling up your dry spots.
  4. Volunteer – Volunteering and service are some of the best ways to get out of your head. As you help others, your sense of confidence will continue to develop.
  5. Learn something new – There is always something new to learn. Always be on the lookout for learning opportunities. Stay current with technology or try taking a class.

You can live a full life of contentment, whether you’re in a relationship or not. And you don’t have to settle for a bad relationship just to try to avoid the possible uncomfortability of being alone for a season. As you learn to cultivate your sense of self worth, you’ll find that you attract emotionally healthy people into your life.

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away” ? C. Joy Bell C.

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