Feeling Frustrated with Dating? Confused by His Words and Actions?
Ask Me Anything! I Can Help You Get Clarity and Resolve Your Dating Problems
for a Small Fraction of the Cost of Private Coaching Sessions

Does this sound like you? You’re a single woman with a lot going for you, and you want to find the love of your life, but you’re super frustrated by men.

If you’re dating, you’re not happy about how much time you’ve wasted on men who are too short, too bald, un-ambitious, have personality problems, or who are emotionally unavailable or commitment-phobic. The men you meet either come on strong at first and then pull back, are cheaters and liars, or don’t know what they want.

If you’re in a relationship, you may be wondering how to get him to want something more committed and serious, or simply get him to open up and talk—the way he used to when you were first falling for each other.

If you’re tired of feeling confused, heartbroken or frustrated with men in your life, you’ve come to the right place. I can help put your mind at ease by sharing my “blueprints” of how men think, all while personally guiding you on your own journey to find true love. By learning the “inside secrets” of men and getting tools and support in applying what you’ve learned, you will find it much easier to navigate this thing called “relationships.” You will be able to feel less confusion, break down communication barriers, and learn the secrets to getting your man to open up his inner world to you.

So now, let me ask you:

Do you think there’s a problem with you, or is it something wrong with your man?

Does it seem like the men you’re dating are all wolves in sheep’s clothing and you want to know how to pick better men or at the very least, stop attracting players and losers?

Do you often wish you could get advice and perspective about men, so you can stop feeling anxious about what he did or said, and have the insight to be able to handle difficult situations with grace?

I know that being single in today’s world can be very challenging. Men can send mixed signals. There are many choices of where to meet men, but the pickings may seem slim to you. Maybe you’ve felt defeated by love in the past.

Whatever you do, don’t lose hope that there are still good men out there, and that you can be in a healthy relationship.

As an internationally recognized dating and relationship coach, I’ve heard from thousands of women over the years asking me for the exact same things you’re looking for: support, clarity, and understanding.

I can tell you that everything you’re experiencing can turn around for the better. All you need is a little help and support to get you started on the right track.

But let’s settle one thing first:

The reason you are single has nothing to do with who you are– believe it!

However, there are some things you should know about how your actions or behavior can impact the way men approach you in dating. Then, there’s also telltale signs that a guy isn’t “Mr. Right” material, and spotting him right away can save you time and heartache. I’m here to help you decode the mystery and get a “heads up” on how to read men.

The problem with your relationship may be a ‘miss’: miscommunication or misunderstanding each other.

That’s where I can help…

I can help you gain confidence, make better choices about men and teach you how to de-mystify a man’s words and behavior…based on YOUR specific needs.

Imagine having me as your own personal “love coach”— someone who not only understands men (because I am one), but whose made it his mission to help women overcome the obstacles holding them back from finding and being happy with their perfect mate? Imagine having the confidence of knowing where your relationship stands because you’ve learned to translate those mixed signals, and you know the right choices to make no matter what’s going on in your relationship? What if you had a mentor on your side who could encourage you but also give you “tough love” when you were about to slide back into your negative patterns?

Imagine also having a network of friends supported and encouraged you when you need it the most.

Now imagine if you could have that kind of personal attention and guidance for a fraction of the cost of private coaching sessions….

Sound good? Well, there’s more…

When you sign up for my Spotlight monthly coaching program, you’ll receive:

1. Live group coaching with me monthly:

With Spotlight Coaching, you’ll  have direct access to “me” to ask personal relationship questions via live monthly coaching call exclusive to members. You’ll have inside information about how men think through my articles on: Dating Divorced Men, Players: How to Spot `em, Finding Love on Facebook and Understanding Men in Relationships.


2. Ask the Expert:

Each month, I host a live call with a recognized expert in the dating world. You’ll get to connect directly to some of the biggest names in the business, including greats like Carol Allen, Bobbi Palmer, Cherry Norris, Kara Oh, Dr. Sheri Meyers, Lauren Frances, Mat Boggs, and Ellen Smoak.


3. Ongoing group support from other single women:

Members of Spotlight Coaching also accepted in a private Facebook group page to meet in a safe place with other women who welcome, embrace and inspire one another. Matters of the heart are discussed with a caring, supportive group that sympathizes with the challenges you are facing. Tears and laughter brought on by dating horror stories are shared in this heart-centered community environment. Talk, listen and learn as these humorous (and tragic) tales are turned into lessons for dating tips and growth in relationships.

4. Tools and resources to help you understand men better

Spotlight Coaching includes valuable eBooks and eCourses, depending on your level of membership, to help you better understand men if you are single, divorced or currently in a relationship. Whether or not you’re in a committed relationship, there are going to be some bumps in the road to navigating the differences between men and women. That is why insider knowledge is priceless when it comes to not only finding your “Mr. Right,” but securing a healthy relationship once you finally meet him.

Your Membership Includes

  • TWO Live Group Coaching calls each month – including one call with a special guest expert dating and relationship coach ($1000.00 VALUE)
  • Insight into the hidden meaning of his words and actions when it comes to love, sex, commitment and attraction
  • Guidance on whether or not to believe your intuition about those “red flags” that keep coming up in your relationship
  • Feedback on the best strategy to handle communication problems, a good guy with “issues”, or what to do and say if he’s pulling away (and you KNOW the relationship has huge potential)
  • Real-world, effective advice for smart, savvy and enlightened women on anything to do with men, dating and relationship
  • Invitation to a private Facebook forum for ongoing support and direct access to me ($200.00 VALUE)
  • Discounts on all of my Understand Men Now tele seminiars ($100.00 VALUE)
  • 10% discount on private coaching
  • The Understand Men Now “Single and Looking” Pack to help you learn the ins and outs of online dating ($19.97 VALUE)

(TOTAL VALUE OVER $1,319.97)

$1 First Month

* This $1 offer includes one month of Spotlight Coaching Program (new members only). Future months will be billed at the regular rate of $47 per month. Cancel at any time.

Your Monthly membership includes invitations to our open group coaching calls with Q & A and my private Facebook Forum. If you love being a Spotlight Coaching member, do nothing and your membership will be automatically renewed each month. If you aren’t convinced for any reason that this is a valuable membership subscription, simply let me know and you won’t receive any more invitations.

Hello, We are Cathy & Kyle, & would like to share our success story with you…

kyle-and-cathyI (Cathy) went through a divorce, after being married for 24 years, became an empty nester when my 2 sons went off to college together, & I was all alone. It was an overwhelming change for me to deal with. Some of my friends suggested that I should go on Match.com. a online dating service where you can meet men. Being out of the dating world for a very long time, that was a little scary for me. But after a week or so, I decided to check it out & I signed up. Having no clue what I was doing, I made some “not so good choices” when I started dating these men that I met on the site. Until…

I met Jonathon Aslay, a relationship confidant & coach that helps women over 40-find love & to Understand Men from a male perspective. He also teaches you about online dating, what to do & what not to do…. after talking with Jonathon, I knew I was doing a lot of things wrong. Jonathon is a Real Person, he becomes a friend & someone that is concerned about you, & wants to help you! It wasn’t all roses…believe me, he told me straight out…”you are blowing it girl, if you think you will ever find love the way you are going, it won’t happen”…. So I listened, read books he suggested, joined in his tele-calls, had some coaching calls & learned from his knowledge. At that point I decided to join his “Angel Membership” group. The Best investment I ever made!! The women in the group were so welcoming, non-judgmental, & like true friends from all around the country…

I am still involved & a member of Jonathon’s “Angel Group”. I love our private Facebook page, (that only members can see & communicate with each other, on). I love sharing my stories with everyone & reading theirs as well. Getting & giving advise when you can also. I am still learning about Understanding Men & relationships from Jonathon. Because in everyday life, there are always trials to deal with, always room for improvement & growth.

And now here I am, in a wonderful, committed relationship with an amazing man that I love very much, and that loves me in return. We have been together for 3 year now. We enjoy our time together, learning about one another, growing in a positive direction towards a lifetime of happiness.

LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS are a beautiful thing…. especially when you have the proper tools & training in finding love, keeping that love & building that love into a wonderful, committed relationship that lasts a lifetime. That is why I strongly suggest that you visit his website…UnderstandMenNow.com and consider becoming a member.

If it wasn’t for Jonathon we wouldn’t be in this beautiful, loving, committed relationship that we have!! Thank you Jonathon for all you do….

Cathy & Kyle


the-ring“True story: if it weren’t for Jonathon, I would not be engaged to the exactly right guy for me – the man I’ve been seeking my whole life.

First there was my issue with dating. I can’t stand dating.

Not just online dating but dating period. Ugh. I had lots of good “reasons” – busy with my kids, busy with my business and it’s just such a time consuming road to no where – or at least that is how I felt.

Jonathon supported me to get outside of my comfort zone and to stay in the process even if it wasn’t always fun.

Then, when I did meet Mr. Right he was nothing like the version I had in my head. NOTHING! “This cannot be it.”

I would say to Jonathon who would listen patiently then help me see all the ways it was in fact “it.” My heart knew but my head kept trying to run.

Without Jonathon’s coaching, I’d still be in dating-hell or resigned to being single rather than planning my wedding to an amazing guy, who IS everything I wanted – and then some.”

Mary M.


sharon-hankI’m married and in LOVE. Shortly after working with Jonathon, I met an amazing man online and now I am married. Before working with Jonathon, I was making so many mistakes which included dating players and guys who weren’t relationship or emotionally ready. That all changed with Jonathon’s help. Jonathon is really the guy spy into the male mind which helped me understand men so much better. Working with him during our private sessions, he held my hand and guided me through the dating process (how to date smart). Plus I joined his private group (everyone is called Angels) and there I could discuss my anxious feelings about men in a very safe place. The confidence I gained working with Jonathon allowed me to be less needy and in my feminine power which my husband loves.

Thank you, Jonathon, you are really the BEST!

Sharon & Hank

Private & group coaching, workshops, teleclasses and digitally downloadable products are designed to be intellectually and conversationally stimulating and for enlightenment and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be used for mental or medical diagnosis or treatment. Mr. Aslay makes no guarantees or representation that he will resolve your relationship query. All audio recordings & transcriptions produced during any live workshop, teleclass or Spotlight Coaching session is the property of Jonathon Aslay, Understand Men Now (UMN) and JSA Communication, LLC (JSALLC). Participation waives all rights in the recordings and the audios may result in future resale and Jonathon Aslay, UMN & JSALLC retains full rights in it’s use. Our refund policy and other terms and conditions can be found here.